Can I look deep within and see what is there?
When talking to a friend, or a love, or a family member
how do we comunicate trust, honesty, sincerity ?
Perhaps most of all by our eyes.
"Look me in the eye" was a common way for a father to get the truth from a son or daughter that was trying to hide something.
Looking in the eyes is a daring act, that some cultures do not value,
or do not use.
Every day we look at ourselves in a mirror, but do we look inside, at the person behind the pupils, do we seek to know ourselves on a deeper level?
I am suggesting this as an exercise, based on the poem 'man in the mirror', sent to me many years ago by a good friend who I respect. If I can trust the man looking back at me, then others can too. If I can not trust him whose reflection is there when I comb my hair, the all others should beware.
If I can lie to myself, how will I know the truth to speak it to others?
So today, instead of looking to see if my hair is just right ( fat chance) or if I shaved every spot on my chin, i will look deep, and see if I like the person within. When I am done drying the fog off the mirror I will not look to see if I have done a good job with the glass, I will look to see if the work my father set out to do, to raise bright and caring and truthful young men into adults, has been a success.
I seek to know you, when I look in your eyes, and to allow myself to be known. I want whoever knows me to know the real me, the truth about me.